Nelma Stassfort Julian, devoted wife of Lt. Col. (Ret) Paul R. Julian, Jr. crossed over the river to lay under the shade tree on November 30, 2020. She was the loving mother of Carol Julian Kross, of New Bern, North Carolina, Paul Derrick Julian, of Staunton, Virginia and Charles Bruce Julian, of Leonardtown, Maryland. She was the proud grandmother and great grandmother of ten grandchildren and twenty-two great grandchildren.
Born on April 23, 1925 in Suffolk, Virginia, she was the daughter of Derrick Herman Stassfort and Ophelia Wertley Stassfort. She was preceded in death by her sister Anne Stassfort Dickson and brother Derrick Herman Stassfort, Jr. She was a devoted Episcopalian. She enjoyed flower gardening and arranging flowers. She served on the Alter Guild of several churches arranging flowers for the alter and around the church. She also enjoyed crafting ceramics and created several memorable pieces. Family trips and gatherings were always special to her and she always enjoyed having all the family together. She and her husband could often be seen dancing at weddings and other Thanksgiving, Christmas, Easter and birthdays were always memorable gatherings at “Grandma’s”. One could always count on her sitting down for a meal and jump up and say “John Brown it”, I forgot the rolls in the oven! Though always tasty they had a slight darkened bottom. As youths, she always coached and educated us in the fine tradition of southern manners and character.
At this time, due to the Covid restrictions, no arrangements have been made for a service. A Memorial Service will be held at a later date. Cards and notes of condolences may be sent to Lt. Col (Ret) Paul R. Julian, Jr./C/o Charles Julian, 20413 Scarlet Tanager Way, Leonardtown, MD 20650. In lieu of flowers, donations may be sent in memory to St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital, P.O. Box 1000, Dept. 142, Memphis, TN 38148.
